Comments on: Defining Courage for Yourself

By: Lisa Dungate

Lisa Dungate — Thu, 17 Feb 2011 02:16:00 +0000

Thanks Kim and Heather & Alexander, for taking the time to question what courage means to each of you.Though I've spent much of the past several years researching human resiliency (the ability to "bounce back" from difficult life experiences or trauma), I was excited by the concept of writing about courage given the fact that everyday our children face small and big challenges or fears and may not necessarily have yet faced a life trauma. It takes courage to overcome a fear like getting your ears pierced, and step-by-step building of courage muscles to maybe even someday jump out of a plane.We were most drawn to courage as, like Sir Winston Churchill and Aristotle, we believe courage is the action mechanism required to put into practice all the other values we wish for our children to learn: kindness, generosity, love, etc.Given advances in psychology, particularly with the growth in cognitive neuroscience and the positive psychology movement, we therefore wished to focus on the empowering, positive, and hopeful perspective that courage offers.We believe that those that show the most resilience have likely had years of developing the kind of courage muscles needed to bounce back, even stronger in many cases, after the inevitable big stuff that life presents us all with at some stage or another.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 09 Feb 2011 08:35:00 +0000

This is a very worthwhile question and one that needs to be discussed more.

When I brought this up with my son he defined courage as sky diving.I took this to mean, trying something even when one is afraid to do it. He agreed.

Having friends and family to support you when you have do do something difficult is one of life's greatest gifts.I hope I do this for my children, family and friends.I know I am lucky enough to have people in my life who do this for me... and my children are at the top of this list!

Great blog.I can't wait to see what's next!

Heather and Alexander

By: ponderer

ponderer — Tue, 08 Feb 2011 01:11:00 +0000

It is interesting that you chose the value of courage...it is not one that I think about very often. The only time I've had a conversation about courage with one of my children was when I had to talk her down from the fear of getting her ears pierced! ;)

To me, courage is the ability to overcome fear. Perhaps my kids don't come into situations of courage very often because my girls are ages 6, 4, and 2...and most of their challenges are around impulse control! Or perhaps I'm not providing enough adversity for my kids to exercise courage! I shall see where this leads us in the upcoming week.

Thanks for the Blog.
Kim B.