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Showing posts with label Courage Question of the Day. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Courage Question of the Day. Show all posts

Friday, February 3, 2012

Courage Question of the Day

Here at Lion's Whiskers we are hoping to collect examples of physical courage.  To recap, here's how we define physical courage:

Physical courage is the one type, from the Six Types of Courage, that most people think of first.  It is the type of courage that allows us to risk discomfort, injury, pain or even death—running into burning buildings as a firefighter, facing an enemy on the battlefield, undergoing chemotherapy, climbing a mountain, protecting a child from a dangerous animal.  We are right to be wary of pain: pain tells us where our boundaries and limits are.  However, sometimes there are things more important than pain, and our physical fear becomes a border to be crossed.  Physical fear is often blown entirely out of proportion: pain is often greater in anticipation than in fact, and that dread can become an insurmountable barrier.  Physical courage also involves recognizing that your body is how you participate in the world; keeping it healthy, strong, and resilient prepares you for all kinds of challenges, not just physical ones. 

Do you think it takes more physical courage to climb a mountain or battle an illness? Do you think it takes more courage to learn to sleep in the dark, take your first steps, or try diving off a diving board for the first time?  Do you notice a difference between your son and your daughter, in terms of how they define physical courage and what it looks like in their lives?

Can you remember a time that you or your child had to have physical courage?  Please post your thoughts or stories here. 

We would very much appreciate hearing from you! 


Friday, November 18, 2011

Courage Question of the Day

Here at Lion's Whiskers we are hoping to collect kids' definitions for some of the values most commonly associated with moral courage

We would appreciate your help! 

Could you ask your children to define, in their own words, one or more of the following?  Please send us their age, first name (if you are comfortable), country, and what they understand these words to mean.   

  • Loyalty
  • Trust
  • Honesty
  • Integrity
  • Accountability
  • Responsibility
  • Fairness
  • Impartiality
  • Justice
You may be impressed, surprised, or even shocked by what your child has already learned, or not, about what these powerful words mean to them in their life.  We hope the discussion prompts new insights and hope you will share with us your learning!  Thanks for your help!  Send your responses to: lisa@drlisaparentcoaching.com

Saturday, July 2, 2011

Courage Question of the Day

Lion's Whiskers asks: What kind of street smarts have you taught your child?  What do you think is really important for your child to know in case of emergency? (i.e. how to dial your home, cell, or work phone number and/or 911 or text for help? how to pick a good stranger to ask for assistance or directions to your address? how to hail a cab, ride a bus/subway, or run for home? where their i.d. and emergency money is stored in their backpack? how to get into the house if they've forgotten their key? which neighbor is a good bet to ask for help? how to stay calm and assess a situation whilst generating the best solution?)

Share your advice, we want to hear from you?

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Courage Question of the Day

Lion's Whiskers asks: What is, or was, your favorite bedtime ritual with your children?  What helped enrich your parent-child connection: reading stories together (which ones?), singing a song, saying a prayer?  

We'd love to hear from you!

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

Courage Question of the Day

If you had an abundance of social courage, what would you do? Try out for American Idol? Host a theme party? Wear something you wouldn't otherwise wear in public? Turn your front lawn into a wildflower meadow? Stop apologizing for your kids' manners?

Monday, June 6, 2011

Courage Question of the Day

Lion's Whiskers asks: What life skills do you want to teach your child before he/she leaves home? 

For example: How to make fire...you never know when the Survivor producers may call? How to set the table and say "please" & "thank you"? How to raise money for a worthwhile cause and care about the planet they will inherit?  How to call 911?  How to use a knife in food preparation? How to wash laundry (without everything becoming grey), stain-remove, fold, and actually put it all away?  How to ride a bike or drive a car (safely)!?

Please leave your thoughts in the comments!

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

Courage Question of the Day

Lion's Whiskers asks: How do you build trust in the parent-child relationship?  How do you know that you've shown your kids that they can trust you? (i.e. are you always on time, do you promise to tell the truth-the-whole-truth-and-nothing-but-the-truth, do you apologize when you make a mistake?)

Wednesday, May 4, 2011

Courage Question of the Day

Lion's Whiskers asks: Who was your favorite superhero when you were a kid?  Who is your child's favorite?  Why?

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Courage Question of the Day

Lion's Whiskers asks: What new learning will you push your child to try?  What particular courage challenge for your child, will you pull back from in order to allow them smaller baby steps forward? 

To read more about what we mean by "Discourage/Encourage: What's a Parent to Do?" of coaching courage, click here.

Thursday, April 7, 2011

What's the Monster Under Your Bed?

Lion's Whiskers asks: What's the monster under your bed?

Our children are not the only ones who fear monsters lurking under the bed, in the closet, or around a dark corner.  As parents we, too, can lose sleep worrying about our child's well-being.  To see if you are in good company, here's a recent survey conducted by babycenter.com with 2,400 respondents (click here for the full results and complete article) about parents' TOP 5 FEARS and what you can do about them (I've cut and pasted the results with my own ad lib):

1. The Fear: I'm afraid my child won't get the education and opportunities she needs to reach her potential.

What You Can Do: Child development experts agree that it's not necessary to buy every educational toy that hits the market or fill each hour of your child's day with enrichment activities. When it comes to helping your child reach her potential, it turns out that less is often more.  Your presence, your attention, your love, for example, provide the most potent education for your child!  It can take emotional and intellectual courage to weigh the choices involved in our choosing the best educational path for our child, especially if you are swimming against tide and home-schooling, enrolling in an alternative educational program, advocating for a learning disabled child, or deciding less is more in terms of extracurricular activities. 

2. The Fear: I'm afraid someone will hurt or attack my child.
What You Can Do: Stay attuned and continue to nurture a securely attached relationship with your child to ensure the channels of communication stay open, so that if anything does happen you will be the first to know.  Have the "strange behavior" talk...instead of provoking stranger-danger fear, role-play and discuss common scenarios and ways to trust your gut when meeting or crossing paths with strangers and/or familiar people who behave strangely that you may wish to keep at a distance.  While teaching your child to navigate the neighborhood, point out examples of  "strange behavior" and how to walk confidently around those types of situations or people that raise red flags in terms of your child's safety.  Teach your child who and how to tell if they've been hurt...physically, emotionally, or sexually.  Remember, in the vast majority of cases with all types of child abuse, the perpetrator is someone known to the child.
3. The Fear: I'm afraid my child will be injured in an accident, like a car accident.
What You Can Do: Remember that medical trauma center statistics show that the vast number of accidental injuries are preventable.  Teach your child street smarts, how to drive safe, how to be safe around electrical appliances, jump on the trampoline only when it has netting and not in the dark with 10 other pals, and not to answer the cordless phone in the bath!  Building physical courage muscles can help prepare a child to cope with injury, develop the kind of flexibility to move quickly, and build the necessary confidence to recover from physical challenges.  Practice some of our 5-Minute Courage Workouts on how to navigate the neighborhood, play with fire, and stay home alone safely. 

4. The Fear: I'm afraid my child won't fit in socially or will get picked on.
What You Can Do: Experts say that children who experience violence at home are more apt to bully others, so it's important to never treat your child violently or allow others to do so.  Empower your child through physical courage building exercises like enrolling in self-defense or martial arts classes.  Teach them to be the kind of morally courageous bystander who does the right thing, and how to use some of the social courage muscles associated with humor/deflection/ assertion/friendship, etc. when targeted by a bully themselves. 

5. The Fear: I'm afraid my child will have weight problems such as obesity or anorexia.
What You Can Do: The good news is that you can help protect your child from the dangers of obesity. Nobody — not your child's doctor, not her gym teacher, not the director of the school lunch program, not even your child herself — has as much control over what she eats and how she spends her time as you do.  When we feel healthy and happy with our own bodies, and speak about ourselves in self-accepting/self-loving ways, our children learn to feel and do the same.  When peers or the press seem to be exerting unusual or unkind body image pressure, move in and advocate, support, and strengthen your child's self-esteem and emotional, social and physical courage through your parent-child connection. 

Now, let's hear from you! What's your monster's name and how do you tame your fear?

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Courage Question of the Day

Lion's Whiskers asks:  Have you hugged your child today? Is your child "too big" for hugs? Make it a sneak attack!

Monday, March 21, 2011

Courage Question of the Day

Lion's Whiskers asks: Which fairy tales inspired you as a child? What did they inspire you to create in your life, do you think? (i.e. taking a scuba diving course with hope of glimpsing a mermaid below the ocean's surface)

Which fairy tale is your child's favorite...what particular intellectual, moral, emotional, social, physical, or spiritual possibilities do you think that this tale opens up in your child's imagination? (i.e. designing a house made entirely made of candy, and settling for a smaller scale model made of gingerbread) 

Recommend your favorite fairy tales!

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Your heroic theme song!

Do you know what hit songs were on the radio when you were born?  Pick one as your heroic theme song for your own birth story and share the title here.

Thursday, March 10, 2011

Courage Question of the Day

Lion's Whiskers asks: Have your kids (or you for that matter) pushed against the boundaries of their own courage, even if it meant getting into "trouble"?
(Like these real-life examples from our parenting and growing-up treasure trove: playing with matches under the bed, playing with firecrackers in the basement, starting or DRIVING the car before being able to see over the dashboard, parachuting off the garage roof with a plastic green garbage bag cape!)

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Courage Question of the Day

Lion's Whiskers asks: What do you think was your most courageous moment?  Which of the six types of courage were you using?
Don't be bashful, please share...no doubt you will inspire someone else today!

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Courage Question of the Day

Lion's Whiskers asks: Did you have a favorite legend, myth, fable or folk tale as a kid? Have you ever retold it to your kids? (p.s. don't worry if it doesn't have a courage theme!)

Care to tell us what the story was...and inspire another parent to tell their child the story?

Sunday, February 13, 2011

Courage Question of the Day

Lion's Whiskers asks: If you didn't let a physical fear stop you, what might you try?  In other words, what do you want more physical courage to accomplish?

Bungee jump? Trek the whole Appalachian or Westcoast Trail solo?  Join an aid group in a disaster area or war zone?  Learn to skate, swim, snowboard?