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Friday, February 10, 2012

5-Minute Courage Workout: Pull Up a Chair and Make Yourself Uncomfortable!

Compiled and written by Lisa and Jennifer:
Part of developing physical courage is to gain, through experience, a comfort with discomfort.  It is impossible to know one's physical limits and/or capacity without testing them.  It is through conquering our fears of high places, being cold,  underwater, fatigued, thirsty, or whatever particular physical discomfort we may have, that we have the opportunity to boost our physical courage capacity.  It is through confronting physical discomfort and pushing through pain, that we can learn (and teach our children) that we have the capacity to survive situations that may someday truly test our limits.  Our assumed limitations often have as much to do with the story we tell ourselves about our physical discomfort as any actual physical limitation.  Pushing ourselves just that little bit past our usual comfort zone can often reveal surprising strength.

Here's a list of 5-Minute Courage Workouts by age range to help you and your child to develop some comfort with physical discomfort:

Friday, September 16, 2011

5-Minute Courage Workout: Fair is Fair!

Compiled and written by Lisa and Jennifer:
"That's not fair!" is a common complaint most of us will hear from our child at some point--especially if we have more than one and cake is involved.  Before we can teach our child what fairness is, revisiting the dictionary definition can be helpful.  Essentially, fairness entails decision-making that is free from bias and self-interest.  To be fair is associated with being honest, just, and equitable.  Favoritism and fairness don't go hand in hand.  These are elements of moral courage, and it does indeed often take courage to suck it up and do the right thing!  What is fair does not always feel good or even make sense to a toddler or a teen.  It can be difficult to understand the difference between fair and equal.  Therefore, our children are looking to us to model what is fair to help guide them through those uncomfortable, confusing moments when doing the right thing doesn't feel right.  Highlight the fact that justice is blind, but the scales always balance in the end. Trusting that fact takes practice and time.

Here's a list of 5-Minute Courage Workouts by age range to help you and your child practice fairness.

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  • Toddler:  The next time you notice that you're losing your cool with your toddler because it had been a long day and the tantrums plentiful, put yourself in a safe, quiet time-out for five minutes.  If you employ this discipline distraction technique, having your toddler watch mommy or daddy sit quietly on the kitchen floor or in a favorite chair might suddenly make the concept of obedience and punishment seem fair.  Ensure your toddler is safe and occupied nearby, while you make time-in for yourself and take a few deep breaths.  Tell your toddler "Mommy needs to calm down and take a few deep breaths because I was raising my voice/got mad/or am feeling tired," whatever the case may be.  Modeling this kind of equitable self-discipline might make your toddler feel that the rules are not biased quite so much in your favor as it may sometimes feel to them.   
  • PreschoolerRead Paul Galdone's The Little Red Hen together at bedtime. This tale of an industrious hen and a lazy cat, dog, and mouse might inspire a discussion about the concept of giving versus getting.  Don't be surprised if your child notices or points out the times when you were both the industrious hen and the lazy dog.   Remember that at this age your child probably places no judgement on some of the inconsistencies they notice in your behavior; they're just gathering information about how the world works.   

Friday, August 12, 2011

5-Minute Courage Workout: Stop Dominating Me!

Compiled and written by Lisa and Jennifer:

It is commonly understood that habits are formed or broken in as little as thirty days.  Much of the time we are unaware of the habits that define us, instead opting to run on auto-pilot.  Today, we are suggesting that you turn off the auto-pilot.  The first step to making any kind of change is becoming conscious of how our routines, thinking and reacting to life can dominate us.  Routines can provide a great deal of comfort, but they can also box us in, particularly when they are not healthy habits.  Before your children's habits and routines become ingrained, you can set a powerful example of flexibility in thinking, feeling and behaving.

Here's a list of 5-Minute Courage Workouts by age range to turn off the auto pilot.

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  • Toddler:   On your walk today (or drive) to a daily destination, take a different route than usual.  Announce that you'll be taking a new path and see what he or she notices.  Notice, yourself, if it seems to bring up any discomfort for your child, or if instead there's excitement for exploring new territory.
  • PreschoolerDoes your child have a security object?  Try proposing that a different teddy bear or blankie go through the day with your child. (Book recommendation: Knuffle Bunny: A Cautionary Tale by Mo Willems).  If that one is too alarming, try mixing up the bedtime routine.  Have your child "read" the bedtime story to you, or have someone else do the tucking in - or have your child tuck you in, if you're an early-to-bed sleeper.

Friday, July 15, 2011

5-Minute Courage Workout: Say a Little Prayer for Me

Compiled and written by Lisa and Jennifer:

Here's a list of 5-Minute Courage Workouts by age range to improve spiritual fortitude.

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  • Toddler: Wish upon a star tonight. Find a star with your child and make a wish, and then offer the observation that many other children around the world can see the same star.  Ask your child to imagine what that other child's wish might be.  As your day is ending, another day is beginning halfway around the globe, but toddlers are toddlers everywhere.  The roots of empathy lie in our ability to imagine someone else's experience. 
  • Preschooler: find a book such as Wish: Wishing Traditions Around the World or    Children Just Like Me: A Unique Celebration of Children Around the World  or Wake Up, World!: A Day in the Life of Children Around the World that shows children from all walks of life and every corner of the world engaged in daily and weekly routines that will be familiar to your child.  See how many points of similarity you and your child can find between your family and the families in the book.  Depending on how much information is available about the children in the book, this can open the conversation with your  child to wonder what might be important to that other child, what home life might be like, what holidays they celebrate, what a school day is like, what breakfast might be.
  • Early Elementary:  Do you remember "Roses and Thorns" from our workout on public speaking?  Consider the spiritual dimension of this dinner ritual.  Each person at the table can take turns saying what they were grateful for today, and what was challenging for them.  Introduce the possibility that everything can be part of our personal and spiritual development, and discuss what learning may be inherent in each rose and each thorn.
  • Upper Elementary or Tween: Chances are, by this age your child knows someone who has died.  Take a moment to reflect upon this loss - even if it's only a pet.  This can open the discussion about what may happen to them or you in the event of unexpected death.  Share with your kids what will happen to them if you should die while they're still young.  Consider telling them what your final wishes are, and why.  Your beliefs about death can inform your decisions about these practical matters.   Invite your kids to explore these ideas at their own pace.  Faith, hope and love can be protective mechanisms to help us deal with our core existential fear of our own mortality.
  • Teens: Has your teen experienced faith practices from around the world?  We here at Lion's Whiskers have traveled and lived in many countries, and been exposed to a variety of religious rituals.  Here is a beautiful rendition of the Muslim call to prayer, here is a Buddhist monk chanting, here is a Jewish prayer,  here is a Gospel choir.  Share these with your teens and see where the conversation takes you.  Have they absorbed any negative subliminal or direct messages over the years through movies or on-line gaming that require some examination?  Spiritual courage doesn't just require tolerance, it requires engaging with other religions in meaningful and thoughtful ways.  You may be surprised by how much exposure your teen has had already through school or extracurricular activities, and what you may be able to learn from them.

Working on these skills may call upon different types of courage, not just spiritual.  Review the Six Types of Courage to figure out which types your child might need to complete this workout.

Friday, June 10, 2011

5-Minute Courage Workout: Thinking Outside the Box

Compiled and written by Lisa and Jennifer:

The younger the mind, the more flexible the thinking.  Studies from social psychology and education show that younger children are not yet inhibited by more conventional, rational problem-solving.  We could all learn to think outside the box a little more.  Your child can help lead the way outside!

Here's a list of 5-Minute Courage Workouts by age range to improve intellectual flexibility.

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  • Toddler: you'll need to dig out some boxes from your basement or visit your local supermarket and ask for some.  Perhaps you even saved a giant box from a recent refrigerator or washing machine delivery?  Now, that would be great!  Place the box in the middle of the living room, stand back, and prepare to be amazed by how your toddler will explore what you think is "just a box."  Your challenge is to not assume what they make of the box and simply observe.  Get down on the ground yourself, crawl around and follow their lead around the box. See how the box transforms in your own eyes. 
  • Preschooler: find several boxes that can nest inside each other, like a set of Russian nesting dolls.  Large paper boxes, tissue or cereal boxes, and delicate velvet ring boxes.  Lay out all the boxes for your preschooler and say "What do you think these boxes are for?" Then, ask your child "How would you like to arrange these boxes?"  Be prepared to be surprised by the ways he/she may see the boxes in relationship to one another.  Encourage your child to think for him/herself.  If they want to have direction with this task, you could say "There is no right or wrong way to put these boxes together.  I am really curious to see what you create all on your own."  The way your child explores space and sees relationships between objects may cause you to look at spatial relationships in ways you haven't in years. 
  • Early elementary student: find a dozen random objects from throughout your house (look for variety) and put them in a box on the dining room table.  Ask your child to sort them without explaining or suggesting what the categories might be.  If your child really craves guidance, just say "Take your best guess about at least one way these objects can be related or similar."  Step back and resist the temptation to sort the objects for them.  See if you, too, can find more than one way to sort the objects into categories.  For example: color, shape, function, size, ownership.
  • Upper elementary student:  On your next drive or walk together, ask your child to imagine a world where there are no rules and that they didn't care what other people thought about what they (your child) did.  Now ask them what is the first thing they would do?  Share with your child what you would do if you didn't care what other people thought, and if you didn't box yourself into certain ways of thinking, feeling or behaving. 
  • High schooler or teen: It's time to rule the world.  Ask your teen what laws he or she would enact if put in charge of everything and everyone.  What kind of society would they like to create and what would it take to do that?  Dwell in possibility with them instead of immediately squashing idealistic proposals that you think would be difficult or unworkable or have dire unintended consequences.  Soon our teens will be our leaders; it's best to give them time for creative brainstorming now!

For every problem there is a solution; it might just take thinking about the problem in a way you may not yet have considered.  Or asking a different question about the problem. This courage workout can help you and your child experiment with new ways of tackling problems.  Maybe doing this workout will bring some humor and hope to problems that get us all stuck at times.  Review the Six Types of Courage to figure out which types your child needs to complete this workout.

Here are some additional 5-Minute Courage Workouts: Navigating the Neighborhood, Playing With Fire, A Fate Worse Than Death, Home Alone, Saying I'm Sorry, Talking DirtyIt's A Dog Eat Dog World

We'd love to hear about your results with one of these workouts, or share your own!

Friday, May 20, 2011

5-Minute Courage Workout: Talking Dirty

Compiled and written by Lisa and Jennifer:

We have become quite the sanitized culture.  Unless you live in a rural community or on a farm, you may have an arm's-length relationship with dirt.  If you are suffering from a dirt deficit and have forgotten the joy, freedom of self-expression, and just plain fun you can have in the dirt, here's a workout for you and your kids.  (Younger kids will probably not find this one too challenging and may already be leading you down the garden path: parents, this one may be more for your benefit!) Also, please be sure to read Let's Talk Dirty.

Here's a list of 5-Minute Courage Workouts by age range to boost confidence in our dirt-deprived and germophobic world.

Remember, all workouts are more effective when followed regularly.
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Friday, May 13, 2011

5-Minute Courage Workout: Saying "I'm Sorry"

Compiled and written by Lisa and Jennifer:

Saying “I’m sorry” takes emotional and moral courage.  Learning about the true purpose and importance of making an apology begins and ends with empathy.

In learning to say “I’m sorry” children first need to learn to identify and express their own feelings.  Then, to develop empathy for another’s feelings.  Next, they will learn to recognize right from wrong.  Following early emotional and moral development comes responsibility-taking for one’s choices and behaviors, self-discipline, and assertive communication.

Hopefully, by supporting our children to develop emotional intelligence, empathy for others, and a sense of personal responsibility (whilst continuing to develop these skills ourselves) we can all help create more peace in ourselves, our community, and our world. 

Here's a list of 5-Minute Courage Workouts by age range. Remember, all workouts are more effective when followed regularly.

Friday, April 29, 2011

5-Minute Courage Workout: It's a Dog Eat Dog World!

Compiled and written by Lisa and Jennifer:

No matter where you live in the world, dogs are either your best friend or a wildly roaming neighbor you and your child need to learn how to be brave around.  As much as dogs can provide much love, exercise, and entertainment to our lives, it is wise to remember that they are predators and certain human behaviors can trigger their prey drive.  Local customs and beliefs about dogs vary around the world, but dog behavior is universal.

If your family has a canine member, chances are your child has already learned how to be safe and practice being a pack leader.  If not, here's a list of 5-Minute Courage Workouts by age range to boost confidence in our dog-eat-dog world.

Friday, April 8, 2011

5-Minute Courage Workout: Home Alone

Compiled and written by Lisa and Jennifer:

Independence doesn't just happen overnight. Even if you don't expect to leave your child home alone, or to be a latch-key kid, emergencies do happen and best-laid plans can go awry! So that you and your child are prepared and don't feel like prisoners in your own home, you need to be able to leave and your child needs to be able to stay home alone when necessary. Your child needs to know what the ground rules are, how to stay safe and not burn down the house in your absence, and not to use his time alone downloading porn on your computer.

Here's a 5-Minute Courage Workout by age range and your assessment of your child's level of maturity. 

It needs to be said that there are only two states in the U.S. that have specific age-based "Home Alone" laws.  Other states have age recommendationsthey vary from eight to twelve years-old—but for the most part U.S. parents are asked to take responsibility in assessing their child's level of maturity.  Canada, on the other hand, is more specific and has a law that reads: Children under 12 years of age cannot be left at home alone or care for younger children. (That said, please read our reader's comment below for more information and weblinks to Canada's guidelines.  It appears that there is some discrepancy between provinces with the home alone age range between 10-12 years of age, please read this link for more information).
We hope that no matter which country you live in, which borough, county or province, that you are aware of the laws or customary practice with regards to leaving children home alone. 

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  • Toddler: once your child is mobile and more confident to be left alone for a moment, play a 5-minute game of "Hide and Seek". Hide yourself in an easily accessible place and call your child to come find you, delight in their ability to find you and the pleasure that comes from being reunited. Then, teach your child to find a safe place to hide nearby and allowing for a few moments of suspense by counting to 10, go find them in their hiding place.  Make sure they know to call out if they want to be found before you actually find them; it's an exercise in using their voice to be heard, to be powerful, and to be safe.
  • Preschooler: keep playing "Hide and Seek".  Now you can add flashlights, secret nooks and crannies in the house, and a favorite teddy to join in the fun and offer comfort whilst waiting in secret hiding places for Mommy or Daddy to find them. Pretend to be stumped yourself, call out for hints about whether you are “hot” or “cold”—closer or father—from finding them. They will be reassured and tickled to hear you on a loving quest to reunite yourself with them. See if they can stay hidden for the full 5 minutes?! Now that your child has lots of practice with this game, you can remind them when you are in another room preparing a meal, for example, and they want you to join them in play that having time to play quietly on our own can be special just like "Hide and Seek".  Make sure they have some activity to while away the time when you are busy.  Try not using TV or a video to distract them during this time.  Let them know that you will call them or find them once you are done doing your chore or done having your own quiet time. Leave them with a timer (start with 5 mins. and work your way up to 15) to know how close the sand is to finishing it's journey or how soon the bell will ring. 
  • Early elementary student: begin the conversation about "When you are old enough to be on your own at home...." Independence should be something to look forward to, something earned, and to be proud of.  Now is the time to start short periods of separation.  For example, while you go down to the lobby to get the mail from the mail box, when you go downstairs to put on a load of laundry, or when you go down the block to borrow a cup of sugar (do people still do this? We hope so!) This is the stage you begin teaching "home alone ground rules".  These will be different for every family depending on the context of your home and the personality of your child.  That said, we highly recommend spending 5 minutes reviewing how you want your child to handle phone calls and use the caller ID, knocks on the door, TV or computer access,  dial 911.  Depending on your family circumstances, there may be some specific "What if" scenarios you will want to rehearse with your child (e.g. leaving with another relative and/or non-custodial parent who happens to stop by). Post a list of emergency contacts and discuss approved snacks and activities to occupy themselves with in your absence.
  • Upper elementary student or 'tween: by this age, children are likely comfortable being left for longer periods on their own when you run a short errand in the neighborhood, can stay on their own with a friend or older sibling, or at least can leave you to do your work, finish a phone call, or soak in the bath.  Hopefully, they are also beginning to ask for more time on their own; and to talk excitedly about when they will be old enough to hang with a friend when you go grocery shopping, to be on their own when you drop their sibling off at rowing practice, and eventually to spend an evening on their own when you go out on a date!  The next time you know you will need to leave your child on their own, time them in advance what day/time/how long you will be gone, remind them several times as the date gets closer.  Ask them to spend 5 minutes making a list of what chores or homework they can do while you are out, what favorite snacks/meal they may want, and what they will do that's fun/special once they've completed the things on their list (e.g. watching a movie, playing a game, reading a book, listening to an audio book, calling/texting a friend).
  • High schooler or teen:  we can safely assume that your teen now has plenty of practice with being alone, but make sure he/she has time to themselves in the house on their own.  There is nothing quite as relaxing, freedom-granting, confidence-building, or trust-boosting as being given the keys to the castle!  Be sure to take 5 minutes to review who is allowed over while you are out, agree on a time you or they may call to check in if you are out late or overnight, what they need to do before they leave to go out in your absence, and how to lock up. 

Learning how to feel comfortable in one's own company (and not just if you're an introvert) is an essential life skill.  One day, your child will open the door to his/her own first apartment or basement suite; he will now own the keys to his castle, and you want that to be a moment he feels proud and not a moment he wants to run back home.  For example, asking some children to even imagine being left home alone might require emotional courage and for others social courage if a bunch of their friends want to join him/her as guests in his/her castle.  Review the Six Types of Courage to figure out which types your child needs to complete this workout.

Want more workouts? Here's our  5-Minute Courage Workout: A Fate Worse Than Death (on public speaking)  How about our 5-Minute Courage Workout: It's a Dog Eat Dog World! (on how to be safe around dogs.)  Does your child have trouble taking responsibility for accidents?  Try the 5-Minute  Courage Workout: Saying I'm Sorry.  Our most popular workout that gets shared and tweeted is our 5-Minute Courage Workout: Navigating the Neighborhood (teaching your child how to learn to find his or her way around.)  Try the 5-Minute Courage Workout: Talking Dirty if getting a dirty is a problem (for you or your child!)

Friday, March 25, 2011

5-Minute Courage Workout: A Fate Worse than Death

Compiled and written by Lisa and Jennifer:

Given that public speaking is well known to be #1 on most people's list of dreaded activities, let's start with how to coach your child to give a speech, so that standing in the spotlight doesn't feel like a fate worse than death!

Here's our 5-Minute Courage Workout on Public Speaking by age range, and remember, all workouts are more effective when followed regularly!

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  • Toddler: start with your favorite nursery rhyme. Make it a game of call and response.  For example, teach "Itsy-Bitsy Spider", sing it a few times, then start taking turns with the lines with your child.  Both of you stand in front of a mirror and now play the game!
  • Preschooler: introduce "Roses and Thorns" at dinner time.  What was your best thing about today?  What was your worst thing? Model respectful listening and taking turns as the center of attention.
  • Early elementary student: offer your child the opportunity to say the dinner blessing.  Print off or write out a few possible dinner verses, blessings, or graces.  Have your child cut them out, put them in a grab bag for some mystery, and pull one out at dinner to say standing at the head of the table. 
  • Upper elementary student or 'tween: on your way to school together, or returning home at night (or another convenient time), ask your child to read out loud to you from the book they are reading.  At your next family gathering, ask your child to retell a favorite myth, legend, fable, or family story. 
  • High schooler or teen: play "After-Dinner Speeches" at a family gathering. Everyone writes down the title of a fictitious speech (such as "How snow contributed to the fall of the Roman Empire"; "How spaghetti was discovered"; "My most successful invention"; "If teens ruled the world"), and puts them in a hat;  the first speaker pulls out a topic at random and delivers a 2-minute speech with no hesitations or repetitions, and then passes the hat to the next person.  Don't worry if you don't know a thing about your ridiculous topic!  The goal is to deliver the speech with so much authority and poise that you impress everyone with your amazing knowledge and confidence!
The problem with fear is that it stops you in your tracks.  A powerful way to conquer a fear is to break it into manageable steps, move forward through it, gain momentum, and celebrate your success!  For example, asking some children to deliver an unscripted speech might take social courage, but for others it might take more intellectual courage.   Review the Six Types of Courage to figure out which types your child needs to complete this workout.

If you want more 5-Minute Courage Workouts...

Here's our 5-Minute Courage Workout on Navigating the Neighborhood5-Minute Courage Workout: Talking Dirty, and our 5-Minute Courage Workout on Playing With Fire.

Saturday, March 12, 2011

5-Minute Courage Workout: Playing with Fire

Why a 5-Minute Courage Workout on Playing with Fire?  Cavemen and women needed it to survive:  our kids need to know about fire so they can enjoy it and not burn the house down or themselves! 
Fire can be magical and provide necessary warmth.  It can also be hazardous. Our children need to be prepared to deal with emergencies in life.  Talking about and preparing for emergencies are not meant to be activities to create fear.  Preparedness helps reduce anxiety (anxiety being defined as "the fear of something threatening, uncontrollable, and/or unmanageable").  Being proactive and preparing yourself and your child to deal with any number of expected, unexpected, tragic, and/or otherwise disastrous events, like those happening this year in Japan, is meant to build the necessary confidence, skill, and courage needed to cope. 

One of the most effective ways to conquer a fear is to face it.  Henceforth, we offer frequent courage workouts by age range to help you and your child develop the necessary courage muscles to handle both the expected and unexpected, tragic and heroic, events that shape our lives.  We take small steps with these workouts and hopefully make learning to be courageous educational and fun.  Here's more on why to teach your children how to use dangerous things.

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  • Toddler: make dinnertime magical tonight.  Find a candle for the table.  It could even be a used birthday candle hiding at the back of the utensils drawer. Light it, and like your lesson about the kitchen stove, say "Hot" and pull your hand quickly back.

Saturday, February 26, 2011

5-Minute Courage Workout: Navigating the Neighborhood

Compiled and written by Lisa and Jennifer:

Regardless of where you live, or how you get around your neighborhood, you and your child have a few familiar routes (to school, the supermarket, the subway/bus stop, or granny's house).  The next time you travel one of those familiar routes, offer your child the chance to be the navigator instead of you.  Navigating the neighborhood is a vital life skill.  When we are the navigator of our own journey, we pay very close attention to where we are.  When we allow another to lead the way we take a back seat, lose our sense of direction, and forget how to find our own way home. 

Here's a 5-Minute Courage Workout by age range, and remember, all workouts are most effective when you do them regularly.

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  • Toddler: when returning home sometime this week, just before you pull into the driveway, bike up the front path, or notice the apartment building ahead, ask your child to point in the direction of home.  When you are a block or two away, see if they recognize where they are and know how to get home.  If they don't know, start by pointing out landmarks for them.
  •  Preschooler: when leaving home this week with your preschooler, ask if they know the name of their street and the number of their house.  Ask them which direction you both need to turn to start the familiar route to preschool, a pal's house, or to the playground.  Hold their hand, and see how far they can lead you down that familiar path.  Or, ask them to give you directions from their car seat.
  • Early elementary student: stand at the front door of your home, ask your child to point in the direction of their school, the library, or their favorite pal's house.  Get them to draw a map with their house in the middle of a page of blank paper.  Then, together draw the route to some of their favorite places.  Include street names and count the number of blocks. 
  • Upper elementary student or 'tween: make your child a backseat driver (we know, we know...they'll likely have lots of advice!)  Have them direct you turn by turn along a familiar route or have them navigate you home giving you directions from a map or the GPS (they get to input the information in the trip planner).  Get them to read the street names, tell you how far in miles you have yet to go, and about how long it will take. Get them to remember where you parked, so you can relax a little while shopping.
  • High schooler or teen:  they want a ride to a new friend's house, to go to the mall on their own, their guitar practice is at a new location on the subway line. If they don't already, get them to consider all the possible ways to get around without relying on you as their chauffeur or navigator.  Get them to tell you the fastest way there, print out the map, load the GPS, figure out the bus route, or tell you what route they may drive themselves. Discuss contingency plans for unexpected detours or expenses. 
Learning how to navigate the neighborhood provides benefits at every age.  For young children it builds confidence.  For older children who have learned to navigate their 'hood, it's a matter of beginning to pull their own weight.  For teens who've proven their independence, it's a matter of security: knowing that they have more options than being driven (especially when they know the driver is new or might not be safest bet).

Working on these skills may call upon different types of courage, depending upon your child's particular strengths and/or temperament.  For example, asking some children to give you directions may call upon intellectual courage, and for others it might take emotional courage to do the same task.  Review the Six Types of Courage to figure out which types your child needs to complete this workout.

Mike Lanza over at Playborhood wrote about Giving Freedom Incrementally to his son, who now has a large "home range."

Here's another 5-Minute Courage Workout: Playing with Fire.  And this 5-Minute Courage Workout: A Fate Worse Than Death! is on public speaking.  Squeamish about dirt? Try our 5-Minute Courage Workout: Talking Dirty to overcome your (and your child's) reluctance.

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